Comments for The-F-Word.org http://the-f-word.org/blog Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:51:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Open post: Your school bullying stories by Brandon http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/04/01/open-post-your-school-bullying-stories/comment-page-2/#comment-376209 Brandon Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:51:52 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1347#comment-376209 “dont think this is over….it will continue tomorrow." That is just the worst feeling. Knowing that there is nothing that you can do to stop it. “dont think this is over….it will continue tomorrow.”

That is just the worst feeling. Knowing that there is nothing that you can do to stop it.

]]> Comment on Open post: Your school bullying stories by Twistie http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/04/01/open-post-your-school-bullying-stories/comment-page-2/#comment-374271 Twistie Mon, 06 Sep 2010 22:24:21 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1347#comment-374271 Anonymous, you wrote: //Btw I know my story isn’t as severe as everyone elses but it was still traumatic and such a nightmare.// Honey, I suffered a lot for a long time, but nobody ever managed to rupture and internal organ of mine! You have every right to acknowledge that your experience was hideous and traumatic. Don't ever fall for the trap of thinking that what you went through wasn't 'as bad' as everyone else. I think the lesson of this thread is that more people need to speak out with more conviction about what's happened to them. The world needs to understand that this is a huge, ugly problem. It doesn't happen to just a few people, or only the ugly ones, or whatever comforting fairy tale they tell themselves. Several of us have had serious injuries or even near death experiences. And I wonder how many of our tormentors have gone on to carry out their rage against spouses, children, and pets of their own. How many of them were acting out on us their rage against their own tormentors at home? What lesson did they learn from the refusal of those in authority to do anything to stop them? Ignoring bullying only leads to more violence, not less. Abusers who get away with their violent acts escalate and victims learn that there's no point in telling anyone what happened to them. And so the cycle of violence continues and grows. Anonymous, what happened to you was every bit as bad as what happened to many of us. It's okay to say that. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it must have been hard for you to do. But if one person reads these stories and decides to take a stand against bullying as the real problem it is, then all of our collective pain is worth it. Anonymous, you wrote:

//Btw I know my story isn’t as severe as everyone elses but it was still traumatic and such a nightmare.//

Honey, I suffered a lot for a long time, but nobody ever managed to rupture and internal organ of mine! You have every right to acknowledge that your experience was hideous and traumatic. Don’t ever fall for the trap of thinking that what you went through wasn’t ‘as bad’ as everyone else.

I think the lesson of this thread is that more people need to speak out with more conviction about what’s happened to them. The world needs to understand that this is a huge, ugly problem. It doesn’t happen to just a few people, or only the ugly ones, or whatever comforting fairy tale they tell themselves. Several of us have had serious injuries or even near death experiences. And I wonder how many of our tormentors have gone on to carry out their rage against spouses, children, and pets of their own. How many of them were acting out on us their rage against their own tormentors at home? What lesson did they learn from the refusal of those in authority to do anything to stop them?

Ignoring bullying only leads to more violence, not less. Abusers who get away with their violent acts escalate and victims learn that there’s no point in telling anyone what happened to them. And so the cycle of violence continues and grows.

Anonymous, what happened to you was every bit as bad as what happened to many of us. It’s okay to say that. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it must have been hard for you to do. But if one person reads these stories and decides to take a stand against bullying as the real problem it is, then all of our collective pain is worth it.

]]> Comment on Feel Good Friday by Ashley @ Nourishing the Soul http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/09/03/feel-good-friday-2/comment-page-1/#comment-373059 Ashley @ Nourishing the Soul Mon, 06 Sep 2010 02:57:33 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1533#comment-373059 Awesome! I would expand that quote to add that every man is beautiful too. Beauty goes deeper than skin (or belly fat). Kudos to the reader for being so wise! Awesome! I would expand that quote to add that every man is beautiful too. Beauty goes deeper than skin (or belly fat). Kudos to the reader for being so wise!

]]> Comment on Feel Good Friday by Anna http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/09/03/feel-good-friday-2/comment-page-1/#comment-372966 Anna Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:55:09 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1533#comment-372966 What a great quote! I really hate those "My husband/wife looks different than when I married them and that makes them not love me anymore!" people. Not cool. What a great quote! I really hate those “My husband/wife looks different than when I married them and that makes them not love me anymore!” people. Not cool.

]]> Comment on In memory of Polly Ann Williams by Ki Raven http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2008/02/12/in-memory-of-polly-ann-williams/comment-page-1/#comment-372736 Ki Raven Sun, 05 Sep 2010 21:19:53 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2008/02/12/in-memory-of-polly-ann-williams/#comment-372736 I glance down I don`t believe what I`m seeing A butterflies grave stone closing in on me Inside screaming "God, why did you take her from me!?!" Outside birds aren`t singing And my chest is stinging - she is leaving My mind is racing As she looks down on us Her wings are winging Even when we`re dreaming Always with us when we`re sleeping Where she is singing With butterfly wings I even imagine when I close my eyes And say my prayers and goodbyes Believing a heavenly Polly And butterflys. - Shaun Antley. "Believe" - Polly I glance down
I don`t believe what I`m seeing
A butterflies grave stone closing in on me
Inside screaming “God, why did you take her from me!?!”

Outside birds aren`t singing
And my chest is stinging – she is leaving
My mind is racing

As she looks down on us
Her wings are winging
Even when we`re dreaming
Always with us when we`re sleeping
Where she is singing
With butterfly wings

I even imagine when I close my eyes
And say my prayers and goodbyes
Believing a heavenly Polly
And butterflys.

- Shaun Antley.

“Believe” – Polly

]]> Comment on Open post: Your school bullying stories by Anonymous http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/04/01/open-post-your-school-bullying-stories/comment-page-2/#comment-372457 Anonymous Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:29:43 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1347#comment-372457 I was popular in elementary school and middle school. I'm not fat or ugly and never have been either. When I switched to puic school the nightmare started. 8th grade my best friends from childhood on were put in the AP (smart kid) classes and I was kept in general. No one knew me or took the time to. And that wasn't so bad really but in highschool end of freshman year I came down with mono and lost a lot of weight, I was sick for 3 years with mono and had to force myself to go to school even just for am hour. No one ever asked how I was and when I did show up to school my best friends would slam my head into a locker calling me "freak" and "druggie" (keep in mind I'd never done drugs at this point in my life). Once in gym, a kid from my soccer team came into the lockerroom where I was hiding and sleeping and beat my ass so bad I had to go to the ER the next day for an internal rupture of the bowel. I get so depressed for weeks when I think about highschool. I have really bad social anxiety from that experience and it's effected my whole life. I'll never be able to get a decent job because I dropped out early and I panic in public. Blah. Much love to everyone who has posted their experiences, you helped me be able to post mine. Sorry for any strange typos- iPhone sucks. Btw I know my story isn't as severe as everyone elses but it was still traumatic and such a nightmare. Stay strong everyone. I was popular in elementary school and middle school. I’m not fat or ugly and never have been either. When I switched to puic school the nightmare started. 8th grade my best friends from childhood on were put in the AP (smart kid) classes and I was kept in general. No one knew me or took the time to. And that wasn’t so bad really but in highschool end of freshman year I came down with mono and lost a lot of weight, I was sick for 3 years with mono and had to force myself to go to school even just for am hour. No one ever asked how I was and when I did show up to school my best friends would slam my head into a locker calling me “freak” and “druggie” (keep in mind I’d never done drugs at this point in my life). Once in gym, a kid from my soccer team came into the lockerroom where I was hiding and sleeping and beat my ass so bad I had to go to the ER the next day for an internal rupture of the bowel. I get so depressed for weeks when I think about highschool. I have really bad social anxiety from that experience and it’s effected my whole life. I’ll never be able to get a decent job because I dropped out early and I panic in public. Blah. Much love to everyone who has posted their experiences, you helped me be able to post mine. Sorry for any strange typos- iPhone sucks. Btw I know my story isn’t as severe as everyone elses but it was still traumatic and such a nightmare. Stay strong everyone.

]]> Comment on Enough with the fill-in-the-blank-rexias! by Farli http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2008/12/02/enough-with-the-fill-in-the-blank-rexias/comment-page-1/#comment-371459 Farli Sat, 04 Sep 2010 17:50:09 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=616#comment-371459 Thank you so much for writing this. I suffer from chronic anorexia and i feel as though its not taken seriously as it is, without people using the name to trivialise or jest. Its not fair and shouldnt be allowed. Its hard enough justifying everyday to myself that im ill and dont chose it, never mind people, now thinking its just a 'trendy label'. People are dying from this illness and it seems people are just making fun of it. I dont think its funny and i doubt the families who have lost people thru it dont either!! Shame on u if you are publishing this crap or ‘bigging’ it up!! Thank you so much for writing this. I suffer from chronic anorexia and i feel as though its not taken seriously as it is, without people using the name to trivialise or jest. Its not fair and shouldnt be allowed. Its hard enough justifying everyday to myself that im ill and dont chose it, never mind people, now thinking its just a ‘trendy label’.

People are dying from this illness and it seems people are just making fun of it. I dont think its funny and i doubt the families who have lost people thru it dont either!!

Shame on u if you are publishing this crap or ‘bigging’ it up!!

]]> Comment on “Guess how much weight I’ve lost” – a spot-on mockery of diet talk by Janet http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/08/30/guess-how-much-weight-ive-lost-a-spot-on-mockery-of-diet-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-371263 Janet Sat, 04 Sep 2010 13:29:43 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1521#comment-371263 Oh well.... I thought Catherine Tate (I could never remember her real name!) looked better as Donna Noble in Dr. Who. She was my favorite companion! Oh well…. I thought Catherine Tate (I could never remember her real name!) looked better as Donna Noble in Dr. Who. She was my favorite companion!

]]> Comment on Feel Good Friday by meerkat http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/09/03/feel-good-friday-2/comment-page-1/#comment-370665 meerkat Sat, 04 Sep 2010 03:11:15 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1533#comment-370665 Unless she is not confident, because those people are hideous even if they are supermodels! Or so I have been told by very many well-meaning people. (Sorry, that was a bit derailish. Venting from the time I tried to get someone to rephrase "confidence makes you 1000x more beautiful" to "confidence helps people see your beauty" so that I wouldn't have to conclude that I am hopelessly ugly, and she was all, "NO! Confidence is vital to beauty!" So remember, kids, the thing to tell people who are insecure about their looks is that their insecurity makes them disgusting.) Unless she is not confident, because those people are hideous even if they are supermodels! Or so I have been told by very many well-meaning people. (Sorry, that was a bit derailish. Venting from the time I tried to get someone to rephrase “confidence makes you 1000x more beautiful” to “confidence helps people see your beauty” so that I wouldn’t have to conclude that I am hopelessly ugly, and she was all, “NO! Confidence is vital to beauty!” So remember, kids, the thing to tell people who are insecure about their looks is that their insecurity makes them disgusting.)

]]> Comment on Feel Good Friday by Tiana http://the-f-word.org/blog/index.php/2010/09/03/feel-good-friday-2/comment-page-1/#comment-370502 Tiana Fri, 03 Sep 2010 23:26:35 +0000 http://the-f-word.org/blog/?p=1533#comment-370502 That is really a lovely quote. That is really a lovely quote.

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