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Want to impress a first date? Order a slab of meat

9th August 2007

Want to impress a first date? Order a slab of meat

A few months ago Hummer started airing commercials in which a vegetarian standing in a grocery store checkout line with his veggies and tofu checks out the groceries of the man behind him. He looks at his tofu and then looks at the other guy’s huge slabs of blood-red meat.

Cut to the same vegetarian, now purchasing a gas-guzzling, monstrous Hummer big enough to plow through dense forests with ease. “Restore your manhood,” flashes the screen (Hummer later changed the tagline to “Restore the balance” in response to complaints).

Men and meat-eating are as synonymous as Bert and Ernie. Watch any advertisement for meat-filled fast food and chances are, it panders to the caveman mentality. But when McDonalds advertises its new “healthy” salads, it’s almost always women who are shown chowing down on lettuce.

Even NutriSystem has a special diet plan for men, with retired football stars reassuring guys they can eat pizzas, burgers and even beer. Women, on the other hand, can enjoy chocolate every day and gush about now becoming their husband’s trophy wives.

The relationship between men and meat hearkens back to the days of hunters and gatherers. Women dug tubers and collected seeds; men brought back red meat from large kills. And although tribes usually subsisted on the foods women collected as they were more abundant and safer to collect – no one ever got gored by a Mammoth picking grubs – meat was the celebrated center of the feast.

Which is why I’m surprised that this “intrinsic” need wasn’t spelled out more so in the NY Times article, “Be Yourselves, Girls, Order the Rib-Eye.” Thanks to Cthulhu’s Cafeteria for the link.

Instead, the article panders to the age-old caution heeded to us by our mothers to “eat something at home alone before a date, and then in company order a light dinner to portray oneself as dainty and ladylike.” The article expresses surprise that women are now eating foods which are perceived to contain substance – namely, meat.

Of course, it couldn’t be because a woman might actually crave a side of cow’s ass. No, writer Allen Salkin (as if you couldn’t tell by the perjorative of “girls” in the title) presents it not as a case of hunger, but as a new dating “strategy.” Ahh, of course, all the better to land a man. Isn’t that the goal of every sad, single woman?

Said one woman on a first date:

Red meat sent a message that she was “unpretentious and down to earth and unneurotic,” she said, “that I’m not obsessed with my weight even though I’m thin, and I don’t have any food issues.” She added, “In terms of the burgers, it said I’m a cheap date, low maintenance.”

The article goes on to reinforce this correlation – that ordering meat on a date is much more acceptable if you’re a thin woman – not once, but twice. The only “curvy” woman mentioned in the article serves to reinforce the reference that fat woman still order lettuce, thus suggesting that unlike her flesh-eating thin counterpart, fat women do have issues with food.

The author does finally skirt around the association of meat-eating as masculine, but once again, falls flat. He recounts the story of a vegetarian, who wishes she could order meat. Instead she’s thought of ordering shots of Jägermeister to prove that she is “a guy’s girl.”

“Everyone wants to be the girl who drinks the beer and eats the steak and looks like Kate Hudson,” Ms. Crosley, 28, said.

Newsflash to Ms. Crosley: Not every woman.

Sigh, it’s a good thing both the husband and I are vegetarian so we don’t have to play these reindeer games.

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  1. 1 On August 9th, 2007, Meowser said:

    Ordering a steak doesn’t mean you aren’t dieting. Atkins lets you eat all the meat you want, as long as you don’t touch carbs. Now, if these chicks are daring to order a baked potato with the steak, and maybe some creamed spinach on the side, and eat it in front of a guy they barely know, now that takes girlie nads.

    Didn’t Bitch do a story a couple of years ago about how skinny celebrities like Cameron Diaz were all about bragging about all the cheeseburgers they downed, and how it showed that the new dream date was a skinny blondie who didn’t “need” to diet? As if women didn’t have enough pressure on them — now, not only do we have to be a size 2, but we have to be an effortless size 2.

  2. 2 On August 10th, 2007, twilightriver said:

    It takes girlie nads to be fat and order the ribs. Heaven forbid a fattie be seen eating something with a high mess quotient, in the company of someone who is still practically a stranger, no less. *gasp*horror* Oh noes!

    People who spend all of their time judging others by how well they navigate the social hoops everyone is supposed to be jumping through, are no fun to date. The world is full of actors and actresses getting paid for their performances with the superficial version of social acceptance that is so easily lost if they falter in the slightest.

    Isn’t it great when people order what they want because they are in the mood for it and not because they want to give a good performance?

  3. 3 On August 10th, 2007, Rio Iriri said:

    My spouse and I are also vegetarian. Last time I checked, he definitely has adequate manhood. :)

  4. 4 On August 10th, 2007, KellyGirl said:

    My boyfriend likes to remind me that he fell for me on our first date, when he took me to a place known for bar-be-que and I ordered a slab of ribs — and ate them all.

    He says he knew right then and there that I was a bad ass who didn’t care what people thought of her.

    Funny, it’s still a challenge to recreate that courage when eating in public.

  5. 5 On August 10th, 2007, Mary Garden said:

    It never fails to amaze me how everything men put out there that sounds like ‘hey, girls! Relax! Enjoy life!’ turns into another impossible demand (eat hearty, but stay ‘effortlessly’ thin! Go ‘natural’! Like Cameron Diaz! – which, of course, means putting in exactly the same amount of grooming time, but now you have to conceal that you’re doing it.

    It always amazes me the number of men I know who honestly believe that women are just set up in some way that makes high heels more comfortable than they look and being completely hairless and odorless all the time somehow effortless.

    It always amazes me is how many men seem to want all the results of women’s endless obsessing over their weight and appearance and man-pleasing behavior without having to be aware of any of the work involved.

    I think there are a lot of men who feel vaguely weird and guilty about this, and that’s how the ‘eat hearty, girlfriend’ things get started. I also think there are many, many men who don’t give a rat’s ass if you gain 20 pounds, if it means you are getting more pleasure out of life and your relationship with him, and if it will make you just RELAX, for god’s sake, but those guys aren’t out there en force airing their opinions in the media.

  6. 6 On August 11th, 2007, Earthencircle said:

    Mary, I really enjoyed your thoughts on this.

    I have a lot that I’d like to say but feel better about keeping it simple at this point in time (I would have to get my own blog to cover it all tee hee). My thought is I feel sooooo good about myself when I’m trying to be viewed as a cheap, low maintanence date. Honesty is the best policy for myriad reasons.

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